He clarified that this measure came after two unproductive mediation sessions in family court and a failed visitation attempt.
“Two years ago, I declared that I’m choosing to be a deadbeat for two of my kids coz their mom was infringing on my rights for access,” he wrote. “I stated that I’ll walk away & withhold maintenance, until I can see my kids.”
Penuel mentioned that he publicized this decision and gave an interview that gained significant attention.
In the same social media posts, he highlighted his positive experiences with the mothers of his other children, emphasizing that they co-parent amicably.
However, he shared that just three months later, the dynamics with the aforementioned mother changed for the better, allowing them to resume a cooperative co-parenting relationship, which is ongoing.
While he did share this development publicly, he noted that it did not garner significant interest.
“That short period now still has me branded as a deadbeat when I’m not,” he said, expressing frustration that his attempts to clarify the situation have not shifted public perception.
Penuel explained that he revisited this topic to address larger societal issues affecting fathers.
He contended that toxic co-parenting scenarios, biased judicial systems, and harsh public scrutiny frequently hinder men striving to maintain a presence in their children’s lives.
“Many men don’t get to see their kids coz of toxic moms. No one calls these mothers out,” he wrote. “When a man cries out… he gets attacked & branded forever.”
Moreover, he criticized the tendency to vilify men who withhold financial support due to restricted access to their children, noting that their concerns are often overlooked.
In conclusion, Penuel emphasized his love for his children, affirming his support for them and commitment to being involved in their lives.
He cautioned that thoughtless criticism online carries real consequences.
“Your uninformed words hurt… they hurt us & they hurt our children,” he urged, calling on the public to approach such delicate matters with more empathy and understanding.
